Fix erectile dysfunction: Does Porn Cause ED?
This article shows you how porn is most likely causing your problems getting hard and staying hard. Read it even if you doubt this is your problem. It can be a life changer even if you are skeptical.
So, every day, I get a ton of emails about my work. And it’s what makes this work so much fun and so rewarding.
We are helping so many guys get their sex life back.
And since sex is more important than almost anything else in life, we’re doing a lot of good with guys and couples and making the world a lot better a place. Before I continue let me introduce a picture that is kind of fun…just to keep things lively. If you are recovering from porn use, don’t look.
If you want to email me simply write to me at matt at getrapidhelp.com, substituting @ for the at (I don’t write it out so I don’t get as much spam from robots that harvest email addresses, so you know what to do since you are a real human not a robot…) So now on to how stopping porn use can fix your erection problems…
“Matt how can I avoid going soft during sex?”
Many of these emails I get every day are like this one. “Jim” is having problems staying hard. He pleasures his girlfriend with her vibrator but of course wants real sex. And how long will she want to have a man who can’t get hard and really give it to her good?
So I asked “Jim” if he uses porn and he answered with this (I always protect the confidentiality and privacy of every guy. We never share info that is personally attached about any guy no matter what. Even wild horses and hot coals won’t get us to release personal info about you, ever ever ever.)
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porn, yes sometimes but take it with a grain of salt only look at it to try and get ready for my girl whom i love dearly and her me/ but a bit embarssaring when it wont stay hard i get her off with a vibe but you know what im missing |
So by now, you need to know this simple equation:
So now you need to know this simple equation: porn = ED
Porn causes erectile dysfunction.
Not for every guy and not immediately.
But porn use causes problems. It does this by causing desensitization.
Desensitization progresses like this:
The six stages of erectile dysfunction
Stage #1: Feel a little less when you masturbate or have partner sex. Just less feeling altogether, less pleasurable orgasms.
Stage #2: Feel less love and affection for your girl. See her more critically. See her zits. A bit of her belly fat. See her behavior and feel critical inside. Not a loving feeling.
Stage #3: Morning wood stops. The progression is, you wake up more and more often without an erection. Eventually never have an erection when you wake up.
Stage #4: Occasionally difficult to have an erection with partner sex. Sometimes you go soft when you’re inside. Masturbation still works okay.
Stage #5: No erections maintained. And even masturbation becomes difficult.
Stage #6: No erections maintained. And masturbation with a soft noodle only.
The cause of most of this for most guys most of the time is desensitization
There are many causes of desensitization. And these causes include poor masturbation habits and medical issues.
But of all of them, if you view porn even sometimes,
The porn is what is causing your erectile dysfunction
And here’s an important point.
It doesn’t matter if you just WATCH porn. You don’t need to masturbate to porn in order for it to cause ED.
And you don’t need to have an orgasm watching porn for porn to cause ED.
Even watching it causes ED by increasing desensitization.
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Watching porn, whether you masturbate to orgasm, masturbate just a little, or “edge”, causes ED.
And even if you watch without any masturbation whatever, you still will cause ED using porn this way.
Why does porn cause so much desensitization even without masturbation?
It has to do with how the brain works. The male brain specifically.
And not just the male brain, but the part of the brain that is almost reptilian. Very basic to us and all the animals.
Our male brains get a reward from stuff related to reproduction. That’s how we’re designed. It’s part of our basic hardware.
Here are the designs built into our brain that porn affects.
Here is exactly why porn causes ED
Design #1 in our brains is about novelty. New females reward our reptilian brains. We love new women, new positions, new female bodies. We are designed to get bored with the same old same old.
Porn shows us all these women who are NEW to us. That affects our brain’s desire for NEW females. And makes the “old” females much less interesting. We become less sensitive to our woman from this.
This is why porn hurts us even if we just watch it, without masturbating to it. Porn affects our reptilian brains by exposing our brains to all these novel women. That desensitizes our brains.
Design #2 in our brains is about porn star expectations. Our brains are designed to desire and crave women who are very young, and very sexy, and who will do things that we desire.
These expectations collide with the real world. We can’t help it, we look at our woman and compare her to what we see the porn stars do. And we feel bad about our woman, our situation and “normal” real world sex.
Design #3 is about escalation. Our brains are designed to get off with sex. Normal real world sex gets us off in a certain way. Porn gets us off in a different way. And frequently, this leads to the same old porn not working so well anymore.
Warning: today’s porn is like today’s junk food — it affects the brain like sugar affects belly fat
Today’s porn is very much like concentrated sugary candy compared to a piece of natural fruit. Technology creates sugary candies and cakes and this triggers cravings for sugar and causes us to eat poorly.
With today’s porn, we see high speed videos of women and men doing different things and it’s like sugary junk food to our brain. We begin not getting off on it anymore and then we seek out more extreme forms of porn.
This is
Why gay sex porn is so popular today with straight guys
Gay sex porn is popular with straight men because they have found that normal straight porn no longer works. Their brains are used to the straight porn and no longer respond the same way.
So a man escalates to other more extreme porn such as gay sex porn.
By the way, gay men who are into porn — guess what? They escalate to straight porn for the same reasons. Straight porn is “extreme” for gay men. But remember
Porn hurts men even if it doesn’t lead to escalation
Not every porn user will escalate to gay porn. Some escalate to bondage porn. Some to group sex porn. Or teenage porn.
And some don’t escalate at all.
Escalation is common but not universal. But even for men who don’t escalate to more extreme forms of porn, the porn they do watch causes desensitization all the same.
So those are the three “design issues” in our brains that cause porn to harm us and interfere with our having a great sex life.
If a guy writes to me, I ask if he uses porn and many guys with ED problems will say “yes but”.
Yes but I only use it once a week. Yes but I don’t masturbate to it. Yes but I use it only occasionally.
If you use porn, you should stop.
And here’s a way to recover your sensitivity and become the sexual man you were at 20 years old
I’m doing a workshop that will help you recover your function and become a total man with raging sexual confidence and super sensitivity. There are a few spots left as of this writing so go here to find out more.
Please feel free to comment or ask a question.
Warmly,
