This is what got me hard erections fast

A lot of guys ask me, Matt what’s your biggest trick in the “get hard and stay hard” department so I thought I’d spell it out here.

I figure all guys get older and they think, ain’t it natural to lose male potency, have the occasional limp dick?

I used to think so but now I know better. It’s not natural. And you can be 90 and have a hard dick. And more importantly, you can be any age and have good strong erections and feel incredible sensation.

But let me get something out of the way about myself. Lots of guys say, how about them pills? They kinda work, so what’s the problem?

I don’t agree. I’m not saying they’re bad. It’s just that pills aren’t for me.

So I dumped all those pills and started getting hard naturally

I got rid of all my pills maybe 8 or 9 years ago. I am in my 50s and the only pills I take are supplements I buy off Amazon. I don’t take a single prescription medication and haven’t other than maybe an antibiotic once in a blue moon. 

I’m healthy as a horse today and I think a reason I’m healthy is I don’t need pills from the doctor.

So even if those Viagra tabs had worked for me, I wouldn’t have taken them. They didn’t, I didn’t, and so it wasn’t an issue.

Turns out, those Viagra/Cialis/Levitra pills only “work” for 6 out of 10 guys…and they do NOT make you feel more sensation in your penis.

So here’s my life today. I get more booty than I ever did in my whole life. And I feel more than I ever did.

Booty call almost every morning and often at night too

This morning as usual my wife and I had sex and here I will sound like I’m bragging but I’m not. We have sex most mornings and it can be quick, like 15 minutes, or slow, like an hour or longer. I stay hard the entire time and the real point is this.

In the old days 10 minutes was a lot, but today 15 minutes is very short and an hour is often the case.

But it isn’t just that. Because…

What good is a hard cock if you aren’t feeling much?

It’s the sensations that I feel today that are a really important part of the story.

The sensations and feeling are off the charts. I never had that in my whole life until I learned this stuff I’m telling you about. I draw the pleasure up into my whole body and it’s like this orgasmic strength all through my body for 10, 20 30 minutes, whatever.

And this has led to something else. I always loved my wife but…

When we first met, I was all over my girl, like every girl I dated. I pawed her, we’d get down whereever we were, and I’d practically tear her clothes off. It was horny city 24 by 7. 

But as our relationship matured, that kinda stopped. And although I’m a horndog, we’re doing it like twice a week. And that’s more than my married friends.

Blech.

From loving her to that “tear off her clothes” feeling — the secret to forever love?

It isn’t that empty peck-on-the-cheek love.

Not anymore.

For the last few years, since I discovered this crazy little exercise, we are at it like rabbits almost every day, in the mornings usually although sometimes in the late afternoon.

It’s what has made me firmly totally wildly in love with my wife and we’re together more than 20 years. I can’t get enough of her, and she’s very sexy and has a great bod and people say she looks younger. She’s shy about admitting it, but all this sex is keeping her younger. I’m convinced of it.

And it’s great for me. I grow hair faster. My cock seems bigger, honestly. I feel this testosterone surge all the time. I get semis constantly. It’s fantastic for my productivity in business, and I just beat other guys totally and love winning more than ever before.

But let’s get back to talking about hard cocks and how to get them

Here’s a key point: it’s not just about “performance.”

In fact, you can have the hardest dick in the neighborhood and what good is it if you feel nothing in it? I found in fact that a fairly soft hardon is better for real pleasure than a rock hard rigid rod you can hang a towel on. So I have a great hard-on with great feeling this morning as always.

In fact I draw the pleasure up into my whole body (what I call pleasure centering) and it’s like off the charts amazing. I can’t tell you how it is, it is just beyond words.

So enough about my bragging. Just wanted to tell you where I am today, ‘k?

Now how bad was it?

Really bad.

I lost my good hard erections and my sensitivity very early…

Alright, so I got my desensitization really early. Very early, very young, I was cruising the bookstore and I discovered pornography in the bookstore. I could actually buy this at age like 9 and I was a total nerd so I did. 

I was wanking it already quite a lot, I can’t remember how often but sometimes 6 or 8 times a day.

Then a year or so later and we move to another part of L.A. and I meet this kid Duke. Duke’s got rich parents although his dad’s a total A-hole and even Duke is really a butt-head to be honest. Duke shows me his dad’s collection of diddlejuice videos — porn videos. Those were the days of big expensive VCRs and almost nobody had them but Duke’s dad had one.

And Duke and I would watch. And I’d wank to porn…video porn now…storing up images and wanking it later. (I was too scared to wank with Duke, although he told me he and his friends would circle jerk together in the basement…)

So years later…

She wrapped her lips over it, and looked up at me, on her knees with those baby blue eyes and lips wrapped tightly around my cock. She could of removed the chrome from a trailer hitch. She was good. And she made these sucking sounds with her lips going over my cock, and deep into her throat.

But Dr. Willie wasn’t up to the prescription. Not much anyway.

We finally did the deed but it wasn’t easy. And it wasn’t all that smokin’ either. And that was a good outcome for me in those days.

So I was one of the early victims of the criminal called desensitization. That serial killer of feeling and rock hard erections.

Why hasn’t your doctor told you about the real cause of bad erections, going soft and not feeling sensation?

Haven’t heard of it as the cause of erection problems, and premature ejaculation, and difficulty even having an orgasm? Hasn’t your doctor told you about desensitization?

It is THE cause of penis problems. 

The big drug companies brainwash me, you and everyone else…

Now, all guys have an occasional problem I suppose. I used to. But never, not once, ever does this happen to me anymore. I can go and go, and then go again, and here’s why.

This crazy little exercise that brought back my hard-ons and restored my pleasure

I did this silly, crazy little exercise. I didn’t come up with it. I didn’t discover it. I stumbled on it and I’ll tell you how sometime but not now.

Point is…

I figured out that wanking to porn was a big part of causing my desensitization. Duh. So I stopped. I replaced the wanking that was desensitizing with a crazy little exercise that increases sensitivity.

Hey if you’re going to wank, why not go forward rather than backwards?

And I stopped what was hurting my desensitization so I’d regain my sword with women, the sword I never really felt the way I should have.

Now here’s what happened…

Everything got really, really good. In the sex department and in every other area of my life. I was always good at making money but not good at keeping it. Now the money has just been flowing in. And life is so much easier. There is an ease to everything, even the bad stuff like aging parents and worrying about my kids…it’s all so much easier.

Anyway that’s my story. If you want this for yourself, watch this video in full.

Testosterone supplements raise your estrogen levels

The rage nowadays is for doctors to give out testosterone like ice cream at a church social.

Testosterone supplements are supposed to fix ED.

They don’t.

And further, the Cookster doesn’t believe that 99% of men who get testosterone supplements need them.

Here’s the problem.

Your body converts testosterone into the most powerful form of estrogen, estradiol.

That’s right…your body creates estrogen out of testosterone.

Many men have high levels of estrogens already. 

Estrogen levels are higher than they should be because many chemicals you put on your skin and put into your mouth resemble estrogens to your body.

These are called xenoestrogens. They can be 10,000 times more powerful than natural estrogen.

If you supplement with testosterone, chances are your body will begin creating higher amounts of estrogen.

High estrogen levels — and xenoestrogens — can result in:

• Poor erections, getting soft midway
• Low motivation
• Difficulty exercising
• Difficulty losing that spare tire around your belly

Yet, men get testosterone supplements and the doctors often do not monitor their estrogen levels!

Plus, even if they get an estrogen blood test, it doesn’t always reveal the pervasive influence of xenoestrogens.

Are you suffering from high estrogen levels?

Virtually all laundry detergent has powerful xenoestrogens in them. These don’t get rinsed off completely. They sit in your clothing and as you sweat they go into your skin and bind to the estrogen receptor sites in your body.

When you eat foods microwaved in plastic, you consume xenoestrogens that have a powerful feminizing influence.

When you drink water from a plastic bottle, and you taste a little plastic taste, you are consuming xenoestrogens that can exert a powerful feminizing effect.

But doctors often don’t know this.

And, more than anything else, supplements of testosterone increase your sex drive in some cases, but…

Testosterone supplements don’t fix your erections

Many guys report to me “Matt, I increased my T levels after I went to the doctor. But I still can’t get hard and stay hard.”

The solution my involve testosterone supplements as part of the answer. Your T levels do decline as you age. And they may be too low.

But if you supplement right away with testosterone you run a high risk of increasing your estrogen levels that are already too high in many of us.

Too high due to problems in our diet, in our laundry room and in our bathrooms.

What I have found is that there are natural ways to increase testosterone.

These have very positive effects.

Naturally raising your T levels can also lower your estrogen levels. Most men don’t need as much estrogen as they have in their bodies due to all the xenoestrogens that end up in their bodies. So lowering estrogen levels should be a high priority.

Raising your T levels naturally has many benefits over supplements

T levels are easily raised naturally for almost all men who do the right diet and exercise. I don’t mean working out 30 minutes a day every day, either.

I mean just being active.

And eliminating the xenoestrogens that are in your diet and that you are putting in your mouth and on your skin.

Here is a quick guide for you:

• Avoid soy and flaxseeds — these contain a lot of estrogens and the only type of soy I ever eat is soy sauce that has been naturally fermented — fermentation makes all the difference

• Don’t ever use anything with parabens in it — most shampoo…most liquid soaps…check the labels

• Don’t microwave in plastic. Microwave in glass instead

• Use olive oil, coconut oil or palm oil — or grassfed butter — but not vegetable oil including soy, corn safflower or cotton seed oil. “Vegetable oil” is almost always soy oil…not good!

•  Don’t store foods in plastic in the refrigerator especially foods with acidic ingredients such as tomato sauce

• Don’t drink hot liquids from plastic cups — the hot water leaches out xenoestrogens

• Avoid putting any product that has rosemary or sage, in it, on your skin. It’s okay to eat these — but putting them on the skin should be a no-no.

I’ll have more to say on the subject or naturally raising testosterone levels in the next day or so.

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should you fantasize during sex with your partner?

Someone writes:

A lot of men are like Joel.

Joel uses porn, sure. 

But he doesn’t masturbate to porn. Instead…

Joel stores up porn scenes that appeal to his brain, and re-enacts them to get hard and stay hard with his wife Karen

He finds that when he has sex with his wife Karen, he has to bring up these porn scenes into his mind to get hard.

And in order to come.

Otherwise, he may go and go and not feel much.

But Karen will eventually get tired of the pounding away and she’ll think, when will Joel finish? Rolling of eyes…

And after a bit, she won’t be all that interested in sex with Joel.

And for poor Joel, without those porn scene fantasies, he can barely get hard anymore. 

But Joel gets plenty hard when he watches his favorite porn scenes

It’s not his fault.

His brain has gotten wired to porn.

And that has desensitized his brain to “regular” sex.

But how bad is this, really?

Can fantasies and porn interfere with sex with your partner?

There are two problems with relying on porn and fantasy to get hard or to come.

Problem #1: It feels distancing. It is a barrier to intimacy. The closeness that you desire and want so much isn’t there when you are fantasizing a three way with three 18 year olds…

Problem #2: The sexual problems become worse and worse. 

Even if your porn tastes don’t escalate.

Even if the same porn still does it for you.

Quick note on “escalation” and porn 

Many guys find their brains get used to the porn they’re into, and they escalate to more extreme forms of porn in order for their brains to respond as before…like needing a higher and higher dose of heroin to get off…

Alfred started with tame pix from Playboy, and over the years moved up to different genres…today’s high speed video porn has hurt Alfred’s brain and he’s gotten hooked on gay porn even though he’s not gay.

Not all guys escalate. Keep in mind, you can get porn induced erectile dysfunction and problems coming even if you don’t escalate!

And…this is all totally reversible and you can fix all this…don’t worry…

Fantasy and porn make it hard to get hard, and hard to come…but luckily…

It’s all fixable!

Keep in mind, the damage is temporary.

And it applies even if you don’t masturbate, but only look at porn.

The sexual problems include:

1. Difficulty getting hard
2. Difficulty sustaining your erection without going soft inside her
3. Difficulty having an orgasm

So, if you find you need fantasy to get hard or stay hard, it might help you if you realize this is not a great thing, and you you decide to do something about it.

The other side of this, when its fixed, is:

• Great erections any time any place, any positions, any possibility

• Even if you have health problems, are 80 years old, and overweight

• You will get great erections and keep them for as long as needed…

   

What’s stopping you is often the porn fantasies. 

Please write a comment or question. Thank you!

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Is good sex possible with the same life partner?

When Linda got to around age 38 or so, she stopped having orgasms mostly. Dan and Linda met at college and got married when he was in graduate school and she was out in the workplace. 

Now, 17 years later, their sex was like this.

About once a week, they would lay down and Dan would use oral with her and then he’d penetrate her and come and then he’d roll off her and go to sleep.

It wasn’t Dan’s fault but he really didn’t give this much thought. He was very busy as a high powered law partner and didn’t have a lot of time or attention he directed to sex.

This is strange, even to Dan. “Matt, I never paid attention to it. I assumed things just decline as you get older together.”

And this isn’t unusual. But now that I’m in the life’s work of helping men with sexual improvement…I wonder…

Why does a man put years of study into work, but hardly pay attention to studying better sex?

I’m a believer in improvement. In process. In making things better and better.

Dan went to four years of college and three years of law school. He struggled through school and paid over $200,000 for his education.

Then he spent years toiling as a low paid “associate” at a law firm, working 80 or 90 hours a week and never having a weekend off.

But for his sex life, Dan didn’t pay any attention at all. He just coasted along.

It is true that sex is an animalistic activity, but so is eating.

I love eating but I don’t eat to live.

I spend time preparing good meals.

Yesterday, I ate grass fed burgers with beef I ground myself. I smoked it in an outdoor smoker.

I ate a fresh kale salad with butternut squash chunks and toasted walnuts and the highest quality parmesan cheese.

Eating is an animal act but I eat well.

Don’t you have things in your life you really care about?

Don’t you study those things and build up your knowledge around them?

And I think sex deserves that kind of attention too, don’t you?

But how do you wake up a sleeping sex life?

But ask Linda what happened to their sex life?

“I don’t know why, but I’m not that interested anymore. I think about sex and I like sex, sure. But it isn’t on the top of the list anymore.”

That’s what Linda says.

Sex is how we are built. We are built to have sex all the time with our partner.

How do I know this?

Almost all animals have “estrus” where the female is ready and wants sex. 

But humans don’t work that way. Women can have sex pretty much any time. But the crucial problem is they lose interest…so the question is

Why do women lose interest in sex?

Sex the way men do it isn’t so hot for women. Just look at how the penis is designed. The penis provides men with loads of sensation with simple manual stimulation especially at the tip. 

But women have a very different make-up of their pleasure places. They have the clitoris, the A-spot, the G-spot, the vagina, outside the vagina.

It isn’t this simple, but sex does become kind of boring for women after awhile with the same partner.

Part of the reason for this is that men don’t know how to really satisfy a woman and women won’t tell men.

Linda doesn’t know why she is not that interested in sex. But the top of the list has to be, it has become boring for her.

The usual media answer is “new new new.” 

New positions.

New toys.

New lingerie.

New games.

But if you’ve tried this you know how…

New quickly becomes old. 

Then you’re left with the same partner and the same issues.

New becomes old. New isn’t the answer to a sex life that can last the rest of your life and be exciting.

Is that even possible to have a fulfilling sex life with the same partner for years or decades?

I was fortunate enough to have found some answers to this problem.

Sex was boring and almost a duty before for me. But now, it is very different.

I didn’t discover anything new. I discovered something old. Very old.

It started when I stumbled on a few guys online had found out the truth…an almost secret group of guys who had solved this problem using some new scientific discoveries and some stuff that comes out of the ancient Chinese and Indian literature.

The Tao and Tantric scholars figured this out to a great extent centuries ago.

I’m out of time…I’ll continue writing on this tomorrow. Please do your part. Leave a comment or question here. Thank you!