How long before my dick is hard and I can have great sex?
Here’s how to determine how long it may take to recover your full male performance
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Any Idea how long the process takes ie from dead to normal Im going to quit viewing all porn and go back to reading non porn mags at night. No wife anymore she passed away fom cancer over a year ago, but no lady friends either. I need a lady in my life and sure can’t get one like this.
Any and all help will be appreciated. Thanks “Jim” |
I get a lot of emails every day and posts and Jim’s stands out for being super clear. “Help, I’m willing to do what it takes, but how long will this go on?”
In general
The longer you’ve had the problem the longer it will take to fix it
However, if you’ve had a problem for 10 years, it won’t take 10 years to fix.
It may take weeks or months. It usually does not take years. Often it can be loads better in 3 or 4 weeks, and totally better in months.
I’ll tell you what the variables are so you can judge your own situation.
If you had this as a young man, it will take longer to get over it
The worst cases are for guys who discovered porn when they were boys. Some as young as 5 or 6.
It is a myth of course that boys and girls don’t have sexual feelings even at a young age.
I can clearly remember playing outside when I was probably 5 or 6 and having sexual feelings.
And I began masturbating and using porn even before puberty.
It took me longer to recover from erectile dysfunction and sexual problems because I got into this very early.
But the fact is that
If the first pussies you saw were on video, you really have to work hard to undo the damage
Young men today, say under about 30 years old, are really in a sucky situation. They grew up masturbating to video porn.
I didn’t have much video porn growing up, so the porn I used was less intense than video porn.
But if I had grown up with a lot of video porn, I’d have been in much worse trouble.
Video porn, especially today’s tube sites and cam sites, have thousands of women (see the earlier post 1000 Vaginas) and they desensitize the brain much worse and the damage takes much longer to fix.
The reason for this is that our early sexual experiences set up the first nerve pathways in our brain for enjoyment of sex.
Further sexual adventures deepen these early pathways.
If our early experience was with 1000 vaginas on a computer screen (or penises, or whips, or whatever it is, everything’s out there) then we will be missing the nerve pathways for healthy, sensitizing sex with a real woman and a real pussy. That just won’t excite our cock and get it hard for very long.
And this is not “all in your head” either — it’s real, physiological, an addiction that is actually far worse than addiction to heroin or freebase.
So if you lack those early pathways for real women, you will have to work much harder and your recovery will take far longer.
But what about middle aged and older guys?
Yes it takes longer to recover if you have health problems
The most common problems guys have is symptoms of:
- high blood pressure
- overweight
- acid relux
- snoring
- asthma
- bowel and gut problems
- depression and anxiety
I see some heads nodding, guys saying, “yeah I have all those things!”
Well, the news here is, you CAN recover and have great sex even with those health problems.
(I found that one thing super helpful is to get over these problems by naturally raising your testosterone levels. This system of raising your T naturally doesn’t involve drugs, expensive supplements or anything like that. I put it into a 4 hour course T Rewind that you can get and that will help you over these health issues.)
But if you have those health issues, the good news is, they don’t really stop recovery in most cases. I have found that
Guys who have major trauma, surgeries or procedures will take a bit longer to recover
Transplants, heart attack, cancer treatment…the docs do NOT do a good job at all of warning guys.
All major procedures on men should carry a warning: will make your erections soft or non-existent, may remove your sex drive, may hurt your ability to have sex for months or years.
Fortunately, the methods that I have outlined in my courses work for guys who have had major surgeries. These methods (which I’ll summarize at the end of this article) all work for getting rid of desensitization.
Because
Desensitization is the real culprit: fix desensitization and your erectile problems get better
This was discovered quite a long time ago. Before the drug companies realized they could collect a tax every time a guy wanted to have sex. Viagra was the first, but then the “me too” drugs came in, basically doing the same thing. It amounts to a tax on sex…so naturally they convince men they “need” this.
The tax is around $10 and the pills kind of work, or really work, for about 60% of men. They do not work for the other 40%, and they also have a terrible side effect —
The ED pills often make sensitization worse
So they are a treatment that makes the problem worse and many guys find that after a few years, the pills no longer work at all.
Plus, the ED pills don’t bring back the pleasure. They don’t bring back the sensitivity. They don’t make you feel more than you do.
They often make you feel less.
So if you’ve been down this road of the pills, and they’ve stopped working, its’ time to
Get serious about fixing desensitization, the cause of male performance problems.
When you fix your desensitization, you will get good erections that last a long time. And you won’t grind away, thrusting in and out with little feeling.
No, you’ll feel more than you have for 20 years or 30 years, maybe more than ever before (I feel more today than I recall even when I was a teenager.)
But you have to stop believing that there is a shortcut. The path is clear but it does take your commitment.
1. Stop masturbation for awhile
2. Stop porn for good.
3. See if you can’t give up the pills for a bit (the ED pills I mean.)
4. Stop fantasy as best you can
5. Go through the “flatline” withdrawal stage
6. Emerge on the other side with morning erections again and the ability to love and make love
And the essential part is, if you have a woman, to spend all the time possible cuddling, kissing, holding hands, naked together, as that will build up Oxytocin and speed up your recovery.
You can be like this man:
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I’ve been following your advice for maybe a month now and have been practicing Karezza for maybe two months. The member is working better then it ever has before. My wife, who says she doesn’t enjoy Karezza, is up for intercourse ANYTIME and has taken to seducing me if we go more then a day without having intercourse. This is very confusing but what the heck, it’s very wonderful too! I think the concept you teach regarding focusing on your self was a game changer for us. My wife is very generous and really knows how to give pleasure. Now I just relax into it and let her know what a delightful lover she is and how much I enjoy our sexual relationship and how happy I am with our new love life and her. She’s 55 and I’m 66. We’ve been together for 29 years. I can’t speak for her but my half of our love life is better than anything I’ve ever experienced before. So good that I feel guilty about feeling so happy! The sensitivity level of my penis is higher then it has ever been before and yes I get erections too just thinking about my wife. I don’t do any porn and don’t masterbate at all any more. I have also asked my wife to touch me VERY gently when she touches my penis, she has made penis touching into an art form, kind of like OM ing. Well, I guess I’ve taken up enough of your time telling you how wonderful my new found love life is. I’m looking forward to more of your classes, the few that I have seen so far have been life changers. –Senior from Minnesota |
The big ingredient in this is always going to be building up Oxytocin. Oxytocin is the true hormone that builds love and erections and great sex. I’ll have more on that in another article.
And in the meantime, the publishing company just caved in. We’ve had so many folks who complained and said they couldn’t watch the webinar due to schedules and so forth, and they’ve opened it up just for perhaps today. Go here to watch the “From Dead Down There To Raging Sexual Confidence” webinar while we take advantage of this short reprieve.
Meanwhile, write out your situation or question and let’s all learn from each other.
warmly
